Cindy’s Weekly Wisdom
First of all, and most importantly, Colleen and I had a fantastic time. Steve was super, and we all had a good time getting to know each other.
Now to our regularly scheduled blog…
Have you ever been told, “If you don’t want this, be sure to give it back?”
How about, “(Deceased relative) wanted you to have this. Be sure to take really good care of it.”
Or, “You so admired mine, that I bought you one too.” A variation of this one is, “I really admired this item, so I bought it for you.”
Or, the most dreaded of all, “Where’s that (fill in the item of your choosing) that I gave you for (holiday)?”
Oh, gifts with strings, what a trouble they can be. The strings are demands that you care for, cherish, account for, value and possible return gifted items in the way that the giver expects.
Let’s be kind: gifts are meant to show someone we care, that we were thinking of them, that they’re important to us, or that we remember a special day in their lives. So why are they so fraught with anxiety at times?
We get things we don’t need.
We get things we don’t want.
We get things we don’t like…at all.
We get things that giver can’t afford (or, truth be told, things that are a lot less than what we believe that gift giver can afford)
We get things that feel like they were purchased without thought (really a trouble when it’s a spouse or dear friend)
And, we get gifts with strings.
A couple weeks ago, I wrote about our inability to control things that no longer belong to us. This same lack of control applies to gifts, or it should. Once you give a gift, or someone gives a gift to you, that item is no longer under the giver’s control. It’s not yours anymore. Don’t give gifts with strings, and don’t accept a gift with strings. We all have so many things we try to control, why try to control an object that lives with someone else? If you feel that you repeatedly give a certain person gifts that he/she doesn’t appreciate properly, take a hint. Give something different, give nothing, make a donation to charity, but don’t keep trying to control what isn’t yours.
Today’s Mini Mission
Take a quick look in the master bedroom and find something to declutter. It’s that simple. Don’t fuss, don’t hesitate, just find that one thing and get it out of there.
Today’s Declutter Item
Here is a little more stationery clutter. This one is a little obscure though so I am keeping an eye on it at the thrift shop. If it doesn’t sell soon I will bring it home and try to find another option to find it a new home. I don’t want to clutter up the thrift shop with my clutter. (Drat! I don’t know what the obscure object was. Somehow I deleted it when I insert the post. Sorry Colleen! You’ll just have to tell us what the photo would have been.)
“In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” Brother David Steindl-Rast
It matters not how fast I go, I hurry faster when I’m slow.