For those of you who don’t read the comments on my blog I thought I would share this one with you. Back on Day 232 I received this comment from Eve…
I’m loving your blog and look forward to checking it each day (I only found it yesterday). Something about your posts makes me want to dig in and de-clutter stuff. Already I’ve de-cluttered dozens of little things: kitchen gadgets, fabric trimmings I thought I’d use but clearly haven’t, school applications for my son that are no longer necessary to keep, IKEA Allen wrenches, etc. Each item I throw away or put into the Goodwill bag makes me feel like I’m losing weight! I have one question: what is your attitude about secretly decluttering other family members’ junk?
My response was this…
I don’t secretly declutter anything for other members of my family. My children are old enough to make their own decisions so all I can do is encourage them or help them but outside of that it’s their stuff and I just have to live with that. My husband is totally on board with the decluttering so I just leave him to take care of his own stuff so no problem there. If I find something that belongs to someone else while I am decluttering I always ask the owner if they want it or not.
You are doing so well with your own stuff by the sounds of it and maybe if your family see the benefit of that they might just start to participate of their own free will.
Just to elaborate on this topic. I don’t think it is a good idea ever to give away something of someone else. Once a person is at an age where they are aware of what is theirs it is their choice whether to keep it or not. I have always encouraged my children to declutter their toys and things once they had grown out of them. It made it easier if we had a garage sale because then they have the bonus of making a little money that they can spend on something else. Then I would even gave them the choice to keep it or give it to charity if it didn’t sell and I think they were always happy to give it to someone who would appreciate it.
I know it is difficult if the other adult member of’ the family isn’t willing to part with their clutter but aside from trying to encourage them there really is nothing else you can do.
My daughter actually read the Eva’s comment and this was her response…
It would be quite difficult for her to declutter our things secretly. Both my brother and I have way too much stuff in our possession but you can bet your bottom dollar that we’d notice if something (even a small something) were to go missing and she’d be hearing about it!! Haha, she does do a pretty good job getting us to declutter though. Whenever I visit I usually get thrown a pile of things while watching TV and am told to go through it. It always seems like such a chore but some of the old things I find in my cluttered mess is quite amusing and it ends up being a fun little activity (but shhh, don’t tell the declutter queen that I said that!).
She’s a cheeky little rat, I can’t imagine where she gets it from.
ITEM 264 OF 365 LESS THINGS
I attempted to sell this on ebay without success