When we get to a point where we are shopping to fill a void in our lives then it is time to stop and think ~
- What is happening here? ~ Instead of facing reality and doing something to improve whatever unsatisfactory situation you find yourself in, you turn to your drug of choice, shopping, to give you that little pick-me-up that you are craving for.
- Why do I do this? ~ In this day and age we behave this way because we are conditioned to it. In the modern consumer society we have become accustomed to the idea that shopping is a feel good activity and if we want to feel good what simpler thing is there to do.
- Is that what I am doing? ~ Quite often we don’t realise that we are shopping to fill a void we just think we like shopping but even if you aren’t aware of it doesn’t mean the problem doesn’t exist.
- How did it come to this? Self preservation is a natural instinct whether that be physical or emotional nobody wants to feel pain, so we do what we can to drown it out. Emotional pain manifests itself in many ways, loneliness, boredom, helplessness, frustration, weariness, sadness… and who wouldn’t want to avoid those things even just for a little while.
Then there are the counterarguments…
- What harm is it doing? ~ Environmentally alone, it is doing more harm than you could possibly even think of. If you have children it is setting a bad example for them, not just because of the lack of concern for the environment but it teaches them the same bad habits.
- It’s my money why can’t I spend it how I like? Sure it is your money although in some cases it is the banks money and people rack up credit card debt that only makes their situation worse. Lets say it is your money and you are shopping within your budget. Do you find yourself surrounded by clutter that you are reluctant to get rid of because you wasted good money on it. Could the money go to better use like your children future education, paying down the home load, eating healthier food…
Lets face it, if we have come to the point where we are shopping as an activity for fulfillment then there has to be something lacking in our lives. If we don’t know what the thing is then we haven’t got anything to lose by taking the opportunity to try new things. Sometimes we dismiss activities without even giving them a go because we don’t think we will enjoy them. This can be a big mistake because when we do this we can be closing ourselves off to great possibilities. Below I have listed some activities to try to give yourself something fullfilling in your life…
- Try a new sport ~ Not only enjoyable but healthy as well.
- Volunteer in your community ~ this can be amazingly rewarding for both you and the recipient of your time and skills.
- Increase activities with friends and family ~ go walking, cycling, hiking, dining out, fishing, visit the art gallery…
- Do something educational ~ cooking or art classes, learn a language, take a computer class…
- Explore your community ~ visit your local information centre and get to know the area around where you live. This knowledge comes in handy when you get visitors from out of town or maybe you could become so proficient you could become a local tour guide. Who knows!!
- Take up a new hobby ~ just don’t get carried away buying supplies.
- Gardening ~ grow your own herbs and vegetables, this can very rewarding, therapeutically and monetarily.
This are just a few ways to fill in your time , give you a boost and keep away from the shops. I am sure you can think of many more. Like anything sometimes the hardest part is getting started but can be so rewarding once you find that one thing that floats your boat.
Just remember that if all else fails don’t dismiss the idea of seeking counselling. If we live in denial that there is a problem these situations can escalate out of control. Not admitting there is a problem doesn’t make it go away so please be kind to yourself and seek help when needed.
Today’s Declutter Item
This drawer divider used to hold all sorts of stationary goodies but now they are all decluttered and what is left doesn’t require such a large storage container. So it’s off to the thrift store with this item.
My Gratitude List
- Something that makes me laugh ~ Tickling babies and making them laugh.
- Something Awesome ~ Checking your lottery ticket and finding you won something.
- Something to be grateful for ~ That fact that no matter where I have lived I have had no shortage of friends.
- Something that makes me happy ~ Going to breakfast every Saturday with my husband ~ sometimes Liam comes along too.
- Something I find fascinating ~ That if you try hard enough you can find a good side to almost anything.