For Simple Saturday this week I just wanted to share a comment that we received last week-end in response to Cindy’s Weekly Wisdom ~ What’s intimidating you. Jo had been struggling with some items and finally came up with the solution. She wanted to share her story with us in case it might help someone else. Thank you Jo for sharing with and caring for your fellow readers.
Can you believe it, I’ve been thinking about this post all this time and trying to decide what my most intimidating items are. And realized today that my absolute worst items have been right in front of me for the last month – the leftovers from my last yard sale, sitting in my living room because I refused to box them up and once more put them in the basement. These are items that have been through several yard sales and didn’t sell, they didn’t even go when I put them in a giveaway pile.
I decided I had to look at things from a different angle. I keep seeing these objects through my own eyes and that means I still somehow see them the way they were when they were new and useful. I had to ask myself, if I was in the market for this item and I saw this very item, in this condition, at a yard sale or thrift shop or even on a giveaway pile, would I want to take it home? If not, out it goes. IF it could be cleaned or repaired, and IF I am both ABLE and WILLING to clean/repair it, it gets kept and dealt with. (All items are subject to throwing out if I don’t actually get around to doing that very shortly.) I decluttered 15 of 18 items that I’ve been struggling with for a long time. Three items made it back into my household, one “as is”, and two for re-purposing. These are also subject to donation if not used shortly.
This process or something similar to it has been written about before. But for me, I discovered I had to do one more things to make it work. I have tried to process these items before, numerous times over the years, including in the last few weeks, but every single time I felt defeated just looking at the pile and gave up. So today I physically took one item at a time into a different room, and wrote down the question and answer (above) because it forced me to focus on one question at a time. As I went through the questions, the fate of the item became clear quite easily. As I decided on each item, I immediately took it to the garbage or the donate box or clean/repair pile, before getting another item. I am embarrassed to admit how hard this process was for me, that I had to break it down into such small parts. But it worked, and that is a huge relief, and if this helps someone else, it was worth putting it out there for them to see. I was starting to think I was not capable of making the decisions I needed to make, and getting quite desperate. Now I realize that despite reading about decluttering one thing at a time, I STILL wasn’t able to put it into practice for my intimidating things because their very presence in the same room all together made it impossible for me to focus on one thing at a time.
Thank you Colleen – and other commenters – because I don’t think I could have figured this out without the ideas here, AND also the gentle nudging to focus on the “why”, when dealing with problem areas. It took a long time, but I am so happy to have arrived at the answer to my particular problem. It may not work for anyone else, but it works for me