As you all know, my mother was recently in the hospital. In the last three weeks people have tried to give her all sorts of things. Meals, flower bouquets, plants, and candy. Thankfully, they all asked me before they did anything. What a relief that was because I could say no. No we do not need meals because we are both on special diets due to health concerns and Mom has little appetite. No we do not need flowers and plants. We react to the smell of the flowers and we have more plants than I want already. No we do not want candy. She can’t have chocolate right now and as diabetics we also shouldn’t have the sugar. I told them what she wanted more than anything was their prayers and visits.
My aunt and one of our good friends insisted on getting us something. Mom suggested we go with an artificial centerpiece for the one table and some type of Christmas decoration. Then they asked us if we would like to go pick it out. We said yes and did so yesterday. What a relief.
At first I thought some might think me rude to respond this way. Then I realized that they had all asked me what to get. They knew it would be hard to get Mom something due to her food issues and allergies. That is why they asked.
This had me thinking about all the “occasions” when we tend to want to encourage or show our care by sending a gift of some kind. I think about those occasions like hospitalizations, long-term sickness, deaths, graduations, retirements, etc. We have been taught over the years to give “things.” In some instances, we have even been taught WHAT to give.
I think this may be an area we could spend time thinking before acting. Does a person really need plants, flowers, candy, books, meals etc? Or, do they need our time and attention? None of these things are wrong. We just might need to think before we do these things. We might just want to ask what is preferred. Just saying.
Today’s Mini Mission
Declutter any kitchen utensils or gadgets that you don’t use often enough to warrant keeping. ~ Who isn’t on the lookout for something that can make our workload lighter. When it comes to the home the kitchen is a major source of this focus. The problem is that many of the gadgets on the market don’t live up to their promise to lighten that load. The utensils drawer ends up with three different styles of peelers, can openers, potato mashers etc and the shelves are packed with all manner of electric gadgets. I must say that some credit has to be given to anyone who still believes on home cooking rather than caving into buying, not always healthy, prepared meals, but be sceptical about the usefulness or such gadgets.
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It matters not how fast I go, I hurry faster when I’m slow