â€œIf we do not feel grateful for what we already have, what makes us think weâ€™d beÂ happy withÂ more?â€ â€” Unknown
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It matters not how fast I go, I hurry faster when Iâ€™m slow
I received the following comment on Thursday for Joanie and I am hoping those of you who have been through a similar experience might have some good advice for her.
You are talking to me. My mom passed away in October at 93. I was her main caregiver and, at her death, inherited her home of 45 years. Iâ€™ve been sorting, shredding, recycling, donating and throwing out ever since. I didnâ€™t want to stay here but didnâ€™t know how I would get rid of an old house in a fraying neighborhood.
Then my niece approached me with a very sensible plan. She is weighed down with student loans and canâ€™t buy a new house but she loved Grandmaâ€™s house. I showed her all the problems and potential problems; she showed me a budget and estimates for a security system, new bathroom and eventually kitchen. She has the energy to paint and polish up the rest of the house. She even wants to keep all the furniture because she doesnâ€™t have enough to fill a four bedroom home. Deal! Sheâ€™s moving in October 1.
Iâ€™m relieved, pretty much ecstatic. But I still have to plow through papers, pictures, books and clothing and Iâ€™m losing steam. Iâ€™ve been working on the living room and dining room for months and it looks like I havenâ€™t done a thing. I thought it was better to stick to one area instead of jumping around but now Iâ€™m feeling panicked because this still isnâ€™t done and Iâ€™ve got the kitchen, bathroom, two bedrooms that are bedrooms, one bedroom thatâ€™s a study/library, one bedroom thatâ€™s a junk room I canâ€™t walk through and a similarly junk filled sun room that I havenâ€™t touched. The basement and attic are good to go because I cleared them years ago. The two car garage is unusable but itâ€™s filled with my sisterâ€™s junk â€“ not my problem!
Iâ€™m a list maker and I sketch out some to-dos for each day. Iâ€™ve been keeping a list of all the things Iâ€™ve disposed of, donated, gifted, recycled (1,418 so far) and I found it helpful at tax time to track my donations. Do you have any ideas to help me? Everything I touch is so personal and sometimes I feel like Iâ€™m throwing away my life and my momâ€™s â€“ and my grandmotherâ€™s because her stuff is here too.