I was at a wedding last weekend and I didnâ€™t know anyone among the 170 others Â there apart from the groom. But I tellÂ you what at the reception, I only had to mention that I sometimes work as a professional de-clutterer and I had a whole host of new friends intrigued and plying questions, lol.
First up we had the familiar, groaning husband; â€œPlease come and sort my wife out!â€ followed by the another woman silently pointing at her husband while mouthing the words â€˜We need to down size, help!â€™ and pulling faces.
I would add that the groaning husband was standing next to his wife at the time, and rather than thwack him with her hand bag, she immediately agreed she really needed sorting out. Her self confessed downfall was her love of browsing charity shops and what could I suggest? I suggested the only cure was going cold turkey and no longer visiting them. She agreed this was probably the only answer. If I was working with herÂ a client I would help her explore a little what need the shopping was fulfilling how she could explore others activities to enjoy that may fill the void.
As for the â€˜we need to downsizeâ€™ couple, they had a 25 year accumulation of stuff from family life and were now empty nesters looking to the future. My advice to them was â€˜start sorting out nowâ€™, if you hope to move in 2-3 years. Itâ€™s much less stressful to do it gradually. Start with the easy stuff and the rules
Do I really love it/use it.
Do I want to pay someone else to pack this up and move it to our new home.
In this couples case, he is a researcher so has lots of papers. We talked a little about scanning services.
Someone else was stumped by her clothes mountain. She confessed she struggled to let anything go, as she always convinced herself could always use old outfits for house work/in the garden. I suggested she consider what was the realistic maximum number of â€˜old clothesâ€™ outfit she could use given that at present she had a wardrobe full of such clothes. I suggested charity shops were a good way to make a donation rather than money, but she didnâ€™t like the idea of clothes being added to the rags pile if there was in her opinion any life left in them, even though charity shops in the UK make a lot of money this way. Whatever I came up with, she had a reason not to let anything go. Sometimes, people block change with all sorts of excuses. But with these sorts of conversations, you never know what seed you may have planted, or what part you played in what goes on to be a major reversal of habits.
I definitely came away thinking there may beÂ a smart business move to hold de-cluttering workshops at wedding receptions!
Do you talk to people you meet about de-cluttering and find itâ€™s a subject many people have something to say about? Itâ€™s a great conversation opener I find and everyone here will have some excellent tips for others that seem simple once you get more experience but to a newbie are a revelation: share your growing expertise folks, with the community you live in.
Today’s Mini Mission
Obligation ~ Declutter something you donâ€™t want that you feel you should keep for someone elseâ€™s sake outside of your home. If they really care for you I am sure they wouldnâ€™t want to cause you this stress.
â€œIf we do not feel grateful for what we already have, what makes us think weâ€™d beÂ happy withÂ more?â€ â€” Unknown
Eco Tip for the Day
If you make coffee or tea after a meal boil a little extra water to soak the baked on food from the bottoms of pans. This saves having to run the hot water until it is warm enough for soaking. Adding a little bicarb soda will also make clean up easier.
For a full list of my eco tips so farÂ click here
It matters not how fast I go, I hurry faster when Iâ€™m slow