I have done so well with de-cluttering my stuff over these last 3 years. I have got rid of a lot, and not regretted any of it. It has also taught me to think more carefully about what I bring into the house. But I still have one aspect of de-cluttering that doesnâ€™t get any easier for me:
I am really bad at actually getting the pile of stuff I have declared can go out of the house.
I mean really bad â€“ I defer and defer and then procrastinate some more. Iâ€™ve worked out that for me it is around fear of regret and loss, even though experience tells me I havenâ€™t once regretted anything afterÂ it has gone. But every time I take things to the charity shop, I occasionally feel overwhelmed with irrational regret for a few days and it is that few days experience that makes me defer the final decision because I donâ€™t enjoy living through it.
I have no idea why I feel this: I know all the theory about sentimental attachment and loss etc, but when it happens, it isnâ€™t enjoyable.
The human mind is a complex thing is it not? Sometimes analysing why we feel how we do is good, but other times, I find it more helpful just to accept this quirk of how I am and find ways to work around it. A case of â€˜feeling the fear and doing it any which way I canâ€™.
A couple of times, with stuff I need to go and I want to go but I seem choked over the final parting, I have either:
- asked a friend to take it for me. Thatâ€™s quite a good tactic. Donâ€™t ask me why that is easier, but I have discovered it is, so I use it!
- arranged collection by a charity that particularly touches me (in this case, our local Hospice), that helps me let go when I know they really need the money.
- Taken the one thing out of the pile my feelings seemed to be focussed on and got rid of the rest with no problem.
Ultimately , at some point, having the stuff hang around for (sometimes) months eventually tips the balance and I get desperate just to see the back of it and that overcomes the other feelings.
Iâ€™m not asking for help or suggestions, lol, this is how I am and how I deal with it effectively.
I am just sharing some self awareness of what I find difficult in case it helps anyone else reading who thinks we all find it easy.
At the end of the day, although I have found this at times difficult, I have let go of two thirds of my own possessions in the last 3-4 years.Â I love lightning the load. And sometimes I briefly remember some of the things I got rid of that took me months and feel great that they are gone and out of my life.
What do you find most difficult and what strategies can/do you use to combat this?
Today’s Mini Mission
Declutter anything with words on. Book, magazine, T-shirt, old billâ€¦
Eco Tip for the Day
Don’t leave lights on in unoccupied rooms even if you are only vacating them for a few minutes.
For a full list of my eco tips so farÂ click here
It matters not how fast I go, I hurry faster when Iâ€™m slow