Should is just another word for obligation. The answer to all the following questions is NO!
- Should I keep this in case I need it some day.
- Should I keep this because (fill in the blank) gave it to me.
- Should I keep this, even though I have more of them than I need, just in case one day I actually have to cater to a much larger group than I normally would.
- Should I keep this because someone made it for me.
- Should I keep this because, after all, everyone has one.
- Should I use this only on special occasions. (Everyday is a special occasion, use it often or let it go is what I choose to do.)
- Should I keep this because it has been in the family for generations. (You can always choose to give it to another family member)
There is no should when it comes to decluttering. Should implies that you are giving your right to choose away to someone or something else. It is up to you entirely as to whether you find something enjoyable or useful enough to warrant a place in your home. It is your home after all, your sanctuary.
There is a big difference between “I should keep this because my mother gave it to me.” and “I want to keep this because I love it and my mother gave it to me.” Or… “I should keep twelve place settings just in case I ever have to cater to that many guests.” and ” I feel comfortable keeping twelve place settings because we cater to this size group on a reasonably regular basis.”
Should the giver, society, mistrust in the future or other external influence have any say in your decision to keep something that you, if having asking such questions, don’t really want. Would you keep the item without these obligatory attachments to them? If the answer is no them let them go.